Back in May, we wrote this blog post on How to Postpone Your Wedding. Who would have thought that we would still be talking about this nine months later?! Today, instead of talking about the nitty-gritty details on how to postpone your wedding, we’re going to talk about all of the ways to stay calm when postponing your wedding.

How to Stay Calm When Postponing Your Wedding

Unfortunately, times are still uncertain, and weddings are continuing to be postponed. It’s so important to stay calm throughout this process, although we do know how challenging that can be! Here are some of the ideas that we have for staying calm when postponing your wedding.

Ask for help

One of the first things that you should do when you first consider postponing your wedding is to ask for help! There are so many ways that you can do this.

First, we suggest gathering your family and closest friends that are most involved in your wedding day. This includes anyone who is contributing financially or practically.

You can even set up a Zoom, FaceTime, or Skype call with your closest people! Fill them in on how you’re feeling about your wedding day and that you might be postponing. Ask them to stay positive for you throughout this time and that you might need some extra help as you go through the postponement process!

Finally, it’s so important that your wedding planner is one of the first people that you talk to, as soon as you are considering postponing. Trust us when we say that this will relieve so much stress off of you. They can help you figure out the first steps that you need to take, as well as look through your contracts to see what all of your vendor’s policies are. Talk about a relief!

If you don’t have a wedding planner, then the first people to reach out to would be your venue or catering manager. Remember, if you’re postponing due to a global event like a natural disaster or a global pandemic, then they’ve likely had this conversation with other couples and may be expecting your call!

Talk to your vendors

Once you’ve figured things out with your core group of people and your planner, it’s time to talk to all of your wedding vendors. You likely want to figure out a new wedding date, and most likely want to keep as much of your vendor team as possible. Reaching out to all of them right away is the best way to keep calm about the process.

The longer that you wait, the less dates will be available! So, reaching out to everyone early and finding out when they’re available will give you plenty of time to secure a date, and potentially reach out to new vendors if necessary.

When reaching out to your vendors, you can even send out a poll with potential dates to see when everyone is available! Doodle is a great way to do this.

Inform guests as soon as possible

Once you have a confirmed wedding date, you’ll want to reach out to your guests ASAP. The longer you wait, the more stressful it will be — on both you and the guests!

Even if you don’t have a new date secured, it’s important to let guests know that your wedding won’t be happening as planned if the date is coming up soon. They need to cancel any travel arrangements and accommodations.

Besides, informing your guests of the decision will likely make the guests feel better about having to make the decision on whether or not to attend!

The easiest and quickest way to inform your guests is through a digital postponement card. You can easily personalize these, and easily track whether or not everyone has received it! Make it clear that the wedding is postponed, not canceled. You don’t have to go into any detail, unless you want to. However, keep in mind that giving a reason will keep people from calling you and asking questions!

Take care of yourself & each other

One of the most important ways to keep calm while postponing your wedding is to take care of yourself and your partner. We know that the uncertainty can be scary and make you uncomfortable.

However you feel is the best way to let your feelings out, do that! This could be meditation, prayer, screaming into a pillow, or binging a favorite show on Netflix. Whatever you choose, be sure to lean on each other and figure out how you can be there for your future husband or wife!

Find new ways to celebrate

Last but not least, find new ways to celebrate!

Along with your wedding postponement might come the postponement of engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and rehearsal dinners. It can definitely be upsetting to have to postpone all of these fun events!

Try to throw virtual parties on all of these dates, including your original wedding date. You can even have small & safe gatherings on the original dates if you’re able to! We all need a reason to celebrate right now, and there’s nothing wrong with doing so in a safe way.

If you’re considering postponing your wedding but don’t know where to start, feel free to reach out to us here! We are more than happy to help.